A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything.
Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic INSECURITY.Tongue out


insecurity is:

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      Feeling of not being ``good enough'' to meet the challenge of a situation you face in life.
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      Sense of helplessness in the face of problems, conflict, or concerns.
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      Belief that one is inadequate or incompetent to handle life's challenges.
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      Fear of being discovered as inadequate, ill fitted, or unsuited to meet responsibilities at home, school, or on the job.
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      Sense of not fitting in, being ``out of synch'' with those in your peer group.
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      Perception that life is unpredictable with most of the expectations you have to meet not clearly understood.
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      Sense of always climbing up a mountain, never being able to reach the top.
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      Sense of lacking support or reinforcement where you live, work, or play.
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      Results from a sense of being unaccepted, disapproved, or rejected.
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      Inner turmoil coming from a lack of direction or bewilderment as to where you are going,
      what your goals are, and what responses are appropriate for events in life.

Insecure people may have:

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      Been raised in a chaotic, unpredictable, or volatile environment in which they were kept off balance, on guard, or on edge.
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      Experienced a major tragedy or loss in their lives and are having a difficult time in accepting this loss and adjusting to the ``change.''
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      Experienced a major ``failure'' in life (e.g., divorce, losing a job, bankruptcy, failure in school, losing a friend, lack of acceptance into social or civic groups, etc.) that led them to question their personal competency.
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      A poorly developed self-concept with low self-esteem, lacking belief in their personal goodness, skills, or abilities.
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      Never felt accepted by the ``others'' in their life, so much so that they became chronically shy, retiring, and withdrawn in their interactions.
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      Had an unrealistic list of rules and expectations prescribed by significant others in their life, rules they are striving to meet even in their current life.
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      A poor body image, making them believe that others see them in a negative light. This makes them self-conscious, tense, and anxious in dealing with others.
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      Never received enough positive reinforcement or feedback from others about their talents and abilities, leaving them unclear as to their skills.
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      Been given very little direction, guidance, or discipline in their earlier lives leaving them unable to cope with the current pressures of life.
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      Always felt overshadowed or overlooked due to the people in their lives who seemed to be
      more successful, smarter, prettier, more handsome, more athletic, higher achievers, getting much attention.
      This can foster doubt in an insecure person's ability to gain recognition for their successes, and can make them
      doubt their ability to achieve success.